Where to Live after Divorce
One of the first major decisions is where to live after the divorce. The challenge with this point is there are a lot of variables in terms of the details of this decision. For example, you will need to decide who gets the house in a divorce. If you have the option of staying in […]
Consistent Messaging
It is important to stay consistent with the messaging you are communicating and not to change the messaging just because you are having a bad day. The messaging does not need to be extensive…it just needs to be consistent.
Think Through Trade-Offs
The important thing is for you to get clear on what you are willing to trade off…what you want to fight for…and the things that do not matter to you at all. The clarity you have on these points will have implications on your life and your children’s lives.
Build Your Support Network
Identify friends and family who can help you along the way. They will be a helpful sounding board as you think about the details involved in navigating the process.
Stop… Collect Yourself… Be Smart
There are many reasons that trigger a divorce and the reasons are often emotionally driven. So, you need to do all you can to…stop…collect yourself…be smart…and approach the process in a very conscious way…trying to take as much emotion out of the process as possible in order to achieve the outcome that you desire.
Mindset Is Essential
“Calm is your friend” when going through a divorce. The calmer (and more level headed) you can be when navigating the process, the better the outcome will be in the end.
Understand Your Finances
Try to understand your current financial picture well in advance of triggering the process. The financial game changes once you and your husband start down the path to divorce…and it is essential to clearly understand the picture before heading down this path.
Riding the Emotional Rollercoaster
At times, you will need to put aside your emotions until you have worked through the details…or there may be times when you need to put away the details until you have worked through your emotions.
The Divorce Process
The divorce process is complex. Educate yourself on the various approaches to divorce – whether it’s traditional divorce or collaborative divorce. That way you can ensure you use the best approach for your situation. Determining whether to use the traditional or collaborative approach to divorce is a personal decision – either way you will end […]
Selecting a Divorce Attorney
It is important for you to decide the type of attorney that you want to engage as there is a wide spectrum of options when it comes to divorce lawyers. There are different types of attorneys to handle different types of divorces… some are hard-nosed pit bulls and others are collaborative peacemakers… both serve a […]